**Long Distance Relationships**
Elliot Yamin “wait for you”
Long distance relationships are never as easy or hard as many people make them seem. Especially for those who are involved in them. Before we begin to talk about the logistics of a long distance relationship, let talk about what constitutes as a long distance relationship? Many people are under the impression that a long distance relationship is two people being in great distance apart, like state to state or hundreds of miles apart. Which in my opinion that is partly true, but I would define a long distant relationship with a simple definition: one relationship, two different places.
So do they last...? Maybe, with the anticipation that the distance is only a temporary ordeal, but generally they tend to drift apart after a substantially amount of time. The problem comes, with the understanding that it is so hard to believe what you cant see, emotions will began to out weight feelings- meaning that the emptiness that you feel after having a bad day & the only thing you want to do is snuggle under the body of the one that holds your heart. It something about his/her scent, body heat, the pitch of their voice & heartbeat that will erase all bad memories of the day from your mind. Or the loneliness you feel when you are at a social or family gathering and everyone is in company of their loves & due to whatever circumstances yours was unable to make it. Or the disappointment is a meeting is cancelled because at this point, any second spent together is worth hours of joy, because it becomes rare. All three emptiness, loneliness, & disappoint are all emotions that one feels, and with enough pressure, will actually start to affect the feelings (Love) that you think you have. And of course this happens because one person is always going to appear to be more comfortable the arrangement then the next. Now, this may not true, but when one person in the relationship is more vocal or has a more physical effect from being away from their partner, they tend to take the distance more difficult. And again distance doesn't always mean being miles & miles apart, but when there are factors that interrupt physical connection of a couple, is a long distance relationship. For example, living two cities apart, which may only calculate up to 30-40 minutes away- would you consider this long distance? The answer is yes! This may very well be a long distance relationship, although the distance isn’t as great as it could be, there could be major factors that interrupt or forbid the couple from having that interaction with one another. Again in my opinion, the hardest types of long distance relationships are the ones that are the closest in distance, because the distance doesn’t speak the title.
So, if there are so many negative factors in a long distance why do couples either engage in one knowingly or develop into one? Simple, because we live off of feelings, so when u love someone you are determine to do what you can to make it work. And I must add. There are many people who actually look at their long distance relationship as being a positive element of their relationship.
-Nanny Williams “I am n the longest restricted relationship ever it's hard but it's teaching me patience n its making our love 10x more stronger, it's worth it all n the end to have a real thing btwn two ppl.”
And not to mention all of the new technology that has been developed to help the couples deal skype, facebook, picture mail and red eye flights. I’m actually waiting for the day virtual 3d imagining comes into existence, so that you have see your honey right there in the middle of the room.
According to some couples, the distance between them have actually brought them closer. I can see that. Because if your relationship can withstand the strict reliance on trust alone, then in the end it can withstand ANYTHING. Makes for a solid relationship also. So, can you handle a long distance relationship?
Monday, November 22, 2010
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
~~team work~~
I first want to start off by apologizing to all of my frequent readers for not being able to post anything for the last couple days. I have been swamped with things to do. I have been so busy with things to do, I just realized only about ¼ of what Im doing is actually beneficially to myself. Its okay! I have stated before and will continue to say, “I do what I love and what I love is helping others” Even when I know im involving myself in something that would probably not be mutual if the roles were reversed I still give my all. In the end I know God, recognizes everything I do, and even if he is the only person who recognizes that my efforts, actions and abilities are always done unselfishly. I know he will reward me & has already begun to do so. THANK YOU JESUS…..
So, while im here sitting at my I was going through some of my emails, and one of the things that I receive on a weekly bases is Goldstar ticket discounts, which are so fabulous, the prices are terrific. Well, this week they have the comedian DeeRay at the improve in Ontario. Now, the last time I went to see him, I loved it. So naturally I was tempted to purchase tickets, BUT then, who in the world am I going to take. I guess Im just at that point in my life were im not too dependent on other people. Although, Im in a “unofficial-official relationship” we just haven’t gotten to that place right now. Im not a very active person who wants to be in & out of clubs and stuff of the sort, but one of my main infatuations with being in a relationship, was the idea of doing “couple things” I guess the idea of adding someone you love to the things you already love to do, seems like a dream. I know as a woman, because we already have this idea in our mind, it is so much easier for us to tag along when requested onto events that we could either careless about or never was interested in, but our male wants us apart of & we do it just so he is able to enjoy himself. But it always seem harder to get a man to do the same, maybe in the beginning when he is trying to impress, but after that….ha!! yeah right! It gets to the point were you would rather not even ask.
Just a suggestion for men: Its okay not to enjoy the things that your lady ask you to tag along to, trust me, 9 times out of 10, she already know you wont, but the representation of you being there speaks loud and clear. You should want to support her hobbies and likes as well. Im sure not all of her request are just so outrageous that you wouldn’t survive through it or just flat out would rather die. Ill continue to say this as well, Sacrifice is a MAJOR part of a relationship. You will always be faced in a relationship with something that you just don’t want to do, but should you do it? Not all the time, but yes you should be willing to take one for the team, because after all you two should be a team. Another strong suggestion, invite to take her to do something you know she enjoys. She would be so appreciative of your efforts. Some of those things would include, maybe taking her to see that so called “chick flick”, join her on a friendly social with other couples whom u don’t even share as mutual friends. Trust me on this next one….but little sentimental things are better: love letters, song dedications, setting a date night once a week on the same day, walks under the stars, late night conversations about the future, beautiful poems or love quotes. All of which may sound cheesy to you, but they will keep your woman happy and feeling like you are in-tune to her. There is nothing more a woman would absolutely love, then feeling like she has the most wonderful man in the whole world. Like she is nothing less than beautiful to him. The thing is, a woman has already provisioned in her head the things that will sweep her off her feet, so if you want to impress her, & truly make her feel loved, you have to do those things, & if you want to WOW her, you have to do something she hasn’t already vision in her head. & if she is a fairytale dreamer like myself. Its not going to cost you much at all, but time….Man, I think I just wrapped my whole heart into this post. Lol felt good to get that out.
So, while im here sitting at my I was going through some of my emails, and one of the things that I receive on a weekly bases is Goldstar ticket discounts, which are so fabulous, the prices are terrific. Well, this week they have the comedian DeeRay at the improve in Ontario. Now, the last time I went to see him, I loved it. So naturally I was tempted to purchase tickets, BUT then, who in the world am I going to take. I guess Im just at that point in my life were im not too dependent on other people. Although, Im in a “unofficial-official relationship” we just haven’t gotten to that place right now. Im not a very active person who wants to be in & out of clubs and stuff of the sort, but one of my main infatuations with being in a relationship, was the idea of doing “couple things” I guess the idea of adding someone you love to the things you already love to do, seems like a dream. I know as a woman, because we already have this idea in our mind, it is so much easier for us to tag along when requested onto events that we could either careless about or never was interested in, but our male wants us apart of & we do it just so he is able to enjoy himself. But it always seem harder to get a man to do the same, maybe in the beginning when he is trying to impress, but after that….ha!! yeah right! It gets to the point were you would rather not even ask.
Just a suggestion for men: Its okay not to enjoy the things that your lady ask you to tag along to, trust me, 9 times out of 10, she already know you wont, but the representation of you being there speaks loud and clear. You should want to support her hobbies and likes as well. Im sure not all of her request are just so outrageous that you wouldn’t survive through it or just flat out would rather die. Ill continue to say this as well, Sacrifice is a MAJOR part of a relationship. You will always be faced in a relationship with something that you just don’t want to do, but should you do it? Not all the time, but yes you should be willing to take one for the team, because after all you two should be a team. Another strong suggestion, invite to take her to do something you know she enjoys. She would be so appreciative of your efforts. Some of those things would include, maybe taking her to see that so called “chick flick”, join her on a friendly social with other couples whom u don’t even share as mutual friends. Trust me on this next one….but little sentimental things are better: love letters, song dedications, setting a date night once a week on the same day, walks under the stars, late night conversations about the future, beautiful poems or love quotes. All of which may sound cheesy to you, but they will keep your woman happy and feeling like you are in-tune to her. There is nothing more a woman would absolutely love, then feeling like she has the most wonderful man in the whole world. Like she is nothing less than beautiful to him. The thing is, a woman has already provisioned in her head the things that will sweep her off her feet, so if you want to impress her, & truly make her feel loved, you have to do those things, & if you want to WOW her, you have to do something she hasn’t already vision in her head. & if she is a fairytale dreamer like myself. Its not going to cost you much at all, but time….Man, I think I just wrapped my whole heart into this post. Lol felt good to get that out.
Friday, November 5, 2010
~memories~~
Have you ever laid across your sofa, bed or the grass in your front lawn and recalled all the memories that were the most special times in your life. Or have you ever gotten with a group of old friends and together recalled some very memorable times you all have shared together. Gosh!!! It makes for a great mood boost. Try it……
I Remember, I Remember
(Thomas Hood)
I remember, I remember,
The house where I was born,
The little window where the sun
Came peeping in at morn;
He never came a wink too soon,
Nor brought too long a day,
But now, I often wish the night
Had borne my breath away!
I remember, I remember,
The roses, red and white,
The vi'lets, and the lily-cups,
Those flowers made of light!
The lilacs where the robin built,
And where my brother set
The laburnum on his birthday,-
The tree is living yet!
I remember, I remember,
Where I was used to swing,
And thought the air must rush as fresh
To swallows on the wing;
My spirit flew in feathers then,
That is so heavy now,
And summer pools could hardly cool
The fever on my brow!
I remember, I remember,
The fir trees dark and high;
I used to think their slender tops
Were close against the sky:
It was a childish ignorance,
But now 'tis little joy
To know I'm farther off from heaven
Than when I was a boy.
Old Things are More Beautiful
(Clay Harrison)
Old things are more beautifulthan many things brand newBecause they bring fond memoriesof things we used to do.
Old photographs in albums,love letters tied with laceRecapture those old feelingsthat new ones can't replace.
Baby shoes, a Teddy bear,a ring that grandma wore,Are treasures waiting there behinda door marked "Nevermore".
Old things are more beautiful,more precious day-by-day.Because they are the flowerswe planted yesterday.
I Remember, I Remember
(Thomas Hood)
I remember, I remember,
The house where I was born,
The little window where the sun
Came peeping in at morn;
He never came a wink too soon,
Nor brought too long a day,
But now, I often wish the night
Had borne my breath away!
I remember, I remember,
The roses, red and white,
The vi'lets, and the lily-cups,
Those flowers made of light!
The lilacs where the robin built,
And where my brother set
The laburnum on his birthday,-
The tree is living yet!
I remember, I remember,
Where I was used to swing,
And thought the air must rush as fresh
To swallows on the wing;
My spirit flew in feathers then,
That is so heavy now,
And summer pools could hardly cool
The fever on my brow!
I remember, I remember,
The fir trees dark and high;
I used to think their slender tops
Were close against the sky:
It was a childish ignorance,
But now 'tis little joy
To know I'm farther off from heaven
Than when I was a boy.
Old Things are More Beautiful
(Clay Harrison)
Old things are more beautifulthan many things brand newBecause they bring fond memoriesof things we used to do.
Old photographs in albums,love letters tied with laceRecapture those old feelingsthat new ones can't replace.
Baby shoes, a Teddy bear,a ring that grandma wore,Are treasures waiting there behinda door marked "Nevermore".
Old things are more beautiful,more precious day-by-day.Because they are the flowerswe planted yesterday.
Monday, November 1, 2010
Rest In Peace Andre
Today marks 2 years that the death of a beautiful person came at a shock to everyone who loved him. On November 1, 2008 at 3am a friend of mine was viscously attacked by some so called friends who set him up. Man!!! If we only knew then what we know now! You would still be with us today! Andre my love, you were entirely too young to have left us. 21 years old, you were still in your prime. Man, now that I think back on it. Today actually makes 3 years from the day we meet. That’s so crazy, I seen you for the first time October 31, 2007 while entering the club & you introduced yourself November 1, 2007 while being the kind gentleman that you were. Although you were working ( being a smooth club bouncer with swag, lol such a flirt u were lol) you took time to walk me and my girls to the car and be our personal body guards from that day forward. SMH, its so sad how the world works today! Man, me and Tiana reminder you with so many great memories, all of which u had us always smiling and laughing. Although our encounter was short, you will forever be remembered in our hearts. You were so talented and we knew u were bound to be a headline sooner or later, and you were, but at the expensive of your life. I hope your in heaven, shining like the star you were destine to be here on earth. Love you Andre. Miss u
Saturday, October 30, 2010
maybe if........
Currently Playing:
Miguel ft J. Cole " All I want is you"
You cant make someone love you, or realize your self-worth. A common myth associated with relationships is "what i wont do, another one is waiting to do" The truth is that, yes someone maybe waiting to take your spot, yeah there will always be someone who will do SOME things that you may not be quick to do. But what that statement fails to address is "what are the things THAT you WILL DO, that others want" Before you look at you relationship based on the first statement, think about those things that you do, that only a real woman or real men does for someone that they love. Its always things that the next will not take on. Mainly it constist of the things that Are not entertaining or fun. Were talking about riding out the tough times, money shortage, stress, family problems, extra grinding, selfishless acts, sacrificing self needs, all of which things that are hardly ever rewarded or recognized by the counter part. Just my thoughts.......
Maybe if I had longer hair
maybe if i lost a little weight
maybe if I had lighter skin
maybe if my smile was a little brighter
maybe I wouldn't be wishing
Maybe if I had a better job
Maybe if i was born into money
maybe if my car was lavish
maybe if my clothes had a name
maybe I would be remembered
Maybe if my hair was curly
maybe if my clothes fit tighter
maybe if my eyes were lighter
maybe if my shoe size was smaller
maybe gift giving would be easier
Maybe if i had taken a chance
maybe if my kiss was deeper
maybe of my touch was softer
maybe if my voice was sweeter
maybe i would be labeled
Maybe if my experience was longer
maybe if my desire was stronger
maybe if my degree was higher
maybe if my name was shorter
maybe if i was all these, I would be someone else
Maybe I should be comfortable with who i am
maybe I should appreciate what I have
maybe I should engage in my qualities
maybe I should except my imperfection
maybe then I would find the happiness I look for others to bring me
Miguel ft J. Cole " All I want is you"
You cant make someone love you, or realize your self-worth. A common myth associated with relationships is "what i wont do, another one is waiting to do" The truth is that, yes someone maybe waiting to take your spot, yeah there will always be someone who will do SOME things that you may not be quick to do. But what that statement fails to address is "what are the things THAT you WILL DO, that others want" Before you look at you relationship based on the first statement, think about those things that you do, that only a real woman or real men does for someone that they love. Its always things that the next will not take on. Mainly it constist of the things that Are not entertaining or fun. Were talking about riding out the tough times, money shortage, stress, family problems, extra grinding, selfishless acts, sacrificing self needs, all of which things that are hardly ever rewarded or recognized by the counter part. Just my thoughts.......
Maybe if I had longer hair
maybe if i lost a little weight
maybe if I had lighter skin
maybe if my smile was a little brighter
maybe I wouldn't be wishing
Maybe if I had a better job
Maybe if i was born into money
maybe if my car was lavish
maybe if my clothes had a name
maybe I would be remembered
Maybe if my hair was curly
maybe if my clothes fit tighter
maybe if my eyes were lighter
maybe if my shoe size was smaller
maybe gift giving would be easier
Maybe if i had taken a chance
maybe if my kiss was deeper
maybe of my touch was softer
maybe if my voice was sweeter
maybe i would be labeled
Maybe if my experience was longer
maybe if my desire was stronger
maybe if my degree was higher
maybe if my name was shorter
maybe if i was all these, I would be someone else
Maybe I should be comfortable with who i am
maybe I should appreciate what I have
maybe I should engage in my qualities
maybe I should except my imperfection
maybe then I would find the happiness I look for others to bring me
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
~~ The Move~~
YAY!!! The move has been made.....
It just feels so comfortable to blog. I have so much more freedom and confidence to post exactly what I want here on my blog. I love facebook for networking purposes, but when it comes to being able to free write, I feel so restricted, and exposed to so much judgement. So....I decided to take my thoughts and post to my own lil palace. Right heere...lol
So as I have previously stated, feel free to enjoy, relate, disagree, or just be noisy. If there are any comments or questions, Please direct them to mdedmon84@yahoo.com
It just feels so comfortable to blog. I have so much more freedom and confidence to post exactly what I want here on my blog. I love facebook for networking purposes, but when it comes to being able to free write, I feel so restricted, and exposed to so much judgement. So....I decided to take my thoughts and post to my own lil palace. Right heere...lol
So as I have previously stated, feel free to enjoy, relate, disagree, or just be noisy. If there are any comments or questions, Please direct them to mdedmon84@yahoo.com
~Questions~
I wanna know why this feels so right
I wanna know why u hold me tight
Each and every night, it keeps me up all night
Thinkin' about the things i like
Can't believe your in my life
I wanna know why ur the one
The things that they should have you've already done
God sent u straight to me
But when you look at me, do you see your wife?
Can you picture us lovin' each other for life?
Are you playin' the role, just like the rest
These are the questions that I ask myself
If, another should come, who's finer than me
And she wanna take your love away, would you leave?
please answer these questions
Could this be my whole fantasy
Maybe u could just be too good for me
If i don't wake then I won't see
Cuz if im not the one you met, then who is in me
In the mist of the tears how come, I love you more, and more, and more
I never longed for no one, yes its true
Seems like this questions keep me here with me
If you, really wanna be with me
Then ill say, I love you endlessly
One thing that I really wanna know
Will this end or will this grow
But when you look at me, do you see your wife?
Can you picture us lovin' each other for life?
Are you playin' the role, just like the rest
These are the questions that I ask myself
If, another should come, who's finer than me
And she wanna take your love away, would you leave?
please answer these questions
I wanna know why u hold me tight
Each and every night, it keeps me up all night
Thinkin' about the things i like
Can't believe your in my life
I wanna know why ur the one
The things that they should have you've already done
God sent u straight to me
But when you look at me, do you see your wife?
Can you picture us lovin' each other for life?
Are you playin' the role, just like the rest
These are the questions that I ask myself
If, another should come, who's finer than me
And she wanna take your love away, would you leave?
please answer these questions
Could this be my whole fantasy
Maybe u could just be too good for me
If i don't wake then I won't see
Cuz if im not the one you met, then who is in me
In the mist of the tears how come, I love you more, and more, and more
I never longed for no one, yes its true
Seems like this questions keep me here with me
If you, really wanna be with me
Then ill say, I love you endlessly
One thing that I really wanna know
Will this end or will this grow
But when you look at me, do you see your wife?
Can you picture us lovin' each other for life?
Are you playin' the role, just like the rest
These are the questions that I ask myself
If, another should come, who's finer than me
And she wanna take your love away, would you leave?
please answer these questions
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
Acting accordingly
And after this I hope you understand how I feel when you’re gone. There are very few women who can attest to a MAN who carries those qualities as you do. IT seems to be very few men who will accept commitment and honor as you do. You have earned the right to be called “The one my heart holds 4ever” Although we have differed in the past, my heart still tells me that you have always been the truth. Does the Lord bless us with more then one? Who knows! I’m just thankful I was able to have the opportunity to be schooled by someone of such great standings. When talking about a man appreciating everything his woman has done, from standing by your side when troubles faced us both, relieving as much pressure from your shoulders & transfer it to me although I have the weight of the world on mines. Things I didn’t even consider, because for me it comes nature, you appreciated it. How could a person live without such appreciation? Patience’s is not a virtue, but a rule. But hesitation doesn’t exist. So proud to represent your love. As confident in your abilities as a Man, no need to mention your name, you will read this and already know its you im talking about. & although you will not say anything I know my words will be appreciated. Although you might thank me later. Im already content. For a minute I thought the feeling was leaving me, but I was unconsciously miss placing it. But its found, and more then ever I am more then sold on your ability to have achieved everything you set your mind to. At the hands of a strong woman, you have gone above and beyond. YOU have YET to cease to amaze me. I know they say Its not good to live in the past, but I still re-visit the first time you looked me dead in my eyes and said “I love you” not “love ya” wooow!!!! Best feeling to date! And I knew at the very moment if YOU said it You meant it. Another lesson: if you feel it, u say it EVERYTIME u feel it. I shame the person who condemns love. Because when its real, you feel it. I shame myself with my underestimated dreams of true love. Because those of which you have already been. Lets be my open confession. I thank you from the pits of my soul, for NEVER playing games with my heart, I beginning to weep, anticipating the moment I will once again be in your presences. No one smiles like you do, No one has the same laugh as you do, No one has the same scent as you. No ones skin feels likes your. No ones heart, beats like yours. Couldn’t even begin to imagine anyone else feeling the way I do about u! It seems unheard of……
"25 Reasons"
1... your smile, don't have to say no more
2... your guidance and all the things you show me
3... the way you look at me when you say "I love you"
4... your headstrong personality
5... your take-charge capability
6... I love the way you cook for meBeef roast, white rice with gravy
7,8,9... the roses, the massages, the cards you give for no reason at all
10... the way you spend on me even though I got my own money
11... for always being yourself regardless of how I or anyone else felt
12... the way you don't trip on me when I'm in the studio real lateLike right now
13... knowing just what I need even when I didn't make it clear for you to see
14... for being understanding when that time comes, you know what I mean
15... for your beauty, inside and out And to close it out,
16 through 25 is for All the chicks you could have hit, but you didn't because of your love for me
I could give you 25 reasons why I'm really in love with you
I can give you 25 reasons why I'm never leaving you
I could give you 25 reasons why I'm really in love with you
I can give you 25 reasons why I'm never leaving you... oh
Have you ever loved somebody?
Have you ever loved somebody?
25 reasons why I'm really in love with you (I am so in love with you)
I can give you 25 reasons why I'm never leaving you
25 reasons why I'm really in love with you (I'm so in love with you and it's really more than) 25 reasons why I'm never leaving you
25 reasons why I'm really in love with you
25 reasons why I'm never leaving you (I'm never leaving you...)
"25 Reasons"
1... your smile, don't have to say no more
2... your guidance and all the things you show me
3... the way you look at me when you say "I love you"
4... your headstrong personality
5... your take-charge capability
6... I love the way you cook for meBeef roast, white rice with gravy
7,8,9... the roses, the massages, the cards you give for no reason at all
10... the way you spend on me even though I got my own money
11... for always being yourself regardless of how I or anyone else felt
12... the way you don't trip on me when I'm in the studio real lateLike right now
13... knowing just what I need even when I didn't make it clear for you to see
14... for being understanding when that time comes, you know what I mean
15... for your beauty, inside and out And to close it out,
16 through 25 is for All the chicks you could have hit, but you didn't because of your love for me
I could give you 25 reasons why I'm really in love with you
I can give you 25 reasons why I'm never leaving you
I could give you 25 reasons why I'm really in love with you
I can give you 25 reasons why I'm never leaving you... oh
Have you ever loved somebody?
Have you ever loved somebody?
25 reasons why I'm really in love with you (I am so in love with you)
I can give you 25 reasons why I'm never leaving you
25 reasons why I'm really in love with you (I'm so in love with you and it's really more than) 25 reasons why I'm never leaving you
25 reasons why I'm really in love with you
25 reasons why I'm never leaving you (I'm never leaving you...)
Sunday, October 17, 2010
October 17
Today is a very special day for me. Today is my grandmothers birthday! I want to wish her a happy birthday! Although you are no longer here with me in the flesh, I thank god for you being present in the spirit. It has been several years since your passing and the years and days never get easier. I will forever miss you and all the times that we shared. Since you have been gone, I have experienced several moments of loneliness and emptiness. No one will ever know the quality of the bond that we shared. You played an important role in the up bringing of me and how I turned out. I strive everyday to become an acceptable woman in your eyes. I know that you are not here in flesh to guide me and keep me on the right path, so I do exactly what I think you want me to do. Its so hard when someone loses someone who is such a large part of their heart. You were/ excuse me, you ARE a large part of my heart. I thank you so much for all that you taught me as a young woman. I have never forgot some of the key lessons that you have taught me, and I feel that I owe you so much more then have given. Sometimes at night I allow my mind to re-visit some of those special moments from the past. Its so important that I never forget those times, since we have no opportunity to create new ones.
Although you are gone for me in flesh today. I will still like to send up all the thanks that I can to you, for raising me, loving me, and showing me so much! I love you beyond the creation of words. Grandma, please accept my promise of success as a token of my gratitude for all that you have given me.~I love you SO MUCH, Happy Birthday! Ms. Bessie Wilson aka My grandma
Although you are gone for me in flesh today. I will still like to send up all the thanks that I can to you, for raising me, loving me, and showing me so much! I love you beyond the creation of words. Grandma, please accept my promise of success as a token of my gratitude for all that you have given me.~I love you SO MUCH, Happy Birthday! Ms. Bessie Wilson aka My grandma
Monday, October 11, 2010
Throwback Night
Let's call this a throw back night. Lol So I was cleaning my room and found one of my notebooks! So similar to this blog. I keep all my thought and poems into the pages of. Notebook. From front to back. I filled the pages with no resentment. There are two poems I would like to share. Each one came at a very interesting and important time of my life. Lol
The first poem is called "sitting in opposites"
He asked my name
He took my number
He reached for my hand
He request moments of my time
He showed his interest
He made the attempt
I told him my name
I gave him my number
I pulled back my hand
I denied his request for my time
I ignored his interest
I rejected the attempt without giving it a chance
He asked her name
He took her number
He reached for her hand
He requested her time
He showed his interest in her
He made the attempt and now she's the Lucky one!
I wished he'd asked my name again
I wished he'd call again
I wished my hand was in his
I wished he had the time again
I wished he was interested again
I attempted to imagine, what it would be to be her!
The second one, I absolutely love!
The days are filled with sorrow and hurt The nights are abandoned and cold with streams of tears The heart crumbles at the rise of every breath The pain hurts with every lash towards the lack Who would understand the cry out? The demand for understanding is the emotional tantrum that the heart endures when it's broken. The feet are scared and tormented from the weight forced upon the shoulders, while struggling to walk the walk of life. Who will recognize the cry out? The hands are clenched with fear of offering it and being turned upon. Trust lingers upon the hand, unclaimed Words go unspoken Emotions are caged by the soul The blank face, empty soul, broken heart, misunderstood Don't ignore the cry out Understand it, recognize it, hear the cry out!
Wow! I love that poem! Both poems came At times I will never forget! Seeing these Poems, helps me to fall Back in love with my writing. Throwback days are so much fun & they actually remind you! Why u are still doing what u do!!! I love having throwback moments :-)
An interesting article I read this morning on 6 habits that couples should engage in to be happy & stay happy, so i decided to share.....
How is it that some couples seem to stay starry-eyed for years, and others let their sizzle, um… fizzle? Well, it appears that successful chemistry sustainers develop healthy coupled-up habits which allow them to keep their love alive and kicking. “People can have a lot of trouble staying close,” says Joyce Catlett, coauthor of Fear of Intimacy. “They get into relationships and think they’re automatically going to know how to make everything work, but figuring out how to stay passionate together is really a skill.” Luckily, they’re skills that anyone can learn. Here are six habits that you’d do well to adopt if you want your date to become your happily-ever-after mate.
Habit #1: Catch romance where you can“You may start out with chocolates and roses, but the likelihood of being able to sustain that feeling with a busy schedule is pretty unlikely,” says JoAnn Magdoff, Ph.D., a New York City-based psychotherapist. Successful couples learn to build a bubble of romance at unexpected times — during their daily commute, while doing laundry — and in low-impact ways, whether that be a long, lingering smooch or just holding hands. In other words, the next time you hear yourself say “Oh, look, we’ve got 15 minutes to ourselves,” make use of it — that’s what keeps the spark alive.
Habit #2: Fight fair Believe it or not, learning to fight right is an important part of keeping chemistry alive. Why? Because if you are constantly cutting each other down, it’s hard to feel mutually amorous. “There is no such thing as a relationship without disagreements,” says David Wygant, author of Always Talk to Strangers. “But if there is an understanding that your partner can come to you with any dissension without being attacked, you will have an honest relationship comprised of ‘open discussions’ rather than ‘fights.’” Debra Tobias, who has been happily married for almost 10 years to her husband Steve, agrees. “Steve and I have learned to listen to each other when we’re upset and we admit when we’re wrong,” says Tobias. “We also make a rule of never, ever saying ‘I told you so’ no matter how much we might want to say it.” The result is that their chemistry doesn’t wane because they never let their arguments escalate to a personal level. Focus on the issue at hand instead of throwing verbal punches.
Habit #3: Nurture your separate selves Going off to your book club when your sweetie’s out golfing isn’t a sign you two are drifting apart. On the contrary, developing individual interests allows for a richer life as a couple. By taking little “couple breaks,” you gain a greater appreciation of the gifts your partner brings to your life and you have more to offer as well. “It’s very attractive to be independent sometimes,” says Magdoff. “You feel better about yourself and you’re less demanding of your partner when you’re together.” After all, taking some personal responsibility for your own well-being relieves the other person of the pressure to “provide” happiness — so go ahead and nurture some solo adventures. That’ll also keep each of you stocked with plenty of adventures to chat about, which also builds your bond.
Habit #4: Take on a project togetherSeparate interests aside, exploring new ground together is also important since it strengthens your history of shared experiences. Jo Smith and her husband of four years found this out when they committed to running their first 10K together. “We were training together, carbo-loading and hydrating together, running the race together and ultimately succeeding together when we both finished,” says Smith. “It brought a whole new level of closeness to our relationship because of the time we spent learning as a duo during this endeavor.” Couples who take on adventures together get a sense of daring and accomplishment that can really kick up their chemistry!
Habit #5: Don’t let your physical attraction for each other dwindle No doubt about it, couples with healthy libidos have no problem keeping chemistry cooking. (That whole “couples’ desire for each other naturally fades over time” excuse? Not true.) The trick to injecting more electricity into a lagging love life has to do with trying new things — sure, it can be easy to work on tricks and techniques when you first meet, but people’s preferences can, and do, change over time. “In interviewing people on the topic of physical intimacy, it became clear that the couples who were the most satisfied were also the ones who were open to some experimentation,” says Catlett. This isn’t to say you suddenly have to become a wild thing, though. Even returning to the basics you may have abandoned along the way — lots of kissing and eye contact, for example — can make the usual encounter feel very different… and much more intimate.
Habit #6: Engage in some mutual admiration In order for chemistry between two people to thrive, there needs to be mutual respect. “It’s about putting yourself in the role of an observer of your partner,” says Magdoff. “Watch them ‘perform’ — I’m not saying they need to do a song and dance for you — just pay attention to the everyday things that remind you why you find them so special.” Then, make it a point to lob compliments their way. “A good exercise is to occasionally create a mental list of the qualities you dig about your partner, and to occasionally share one of your thoughts with the one you love,” says Wygant. Because the reality is, you’ll always want to be around someone who thinks you’re fantastic.
How is it that some couples seem to stay starry-eyed for years, and others let their sizzle, um… fizzle? Well, it appears that successful chemistry sustainers develop healthy coupled-up habits which allow them to keep their love alive and kicking. “People can have a lot of trouble staying close,” says Joyce Catlett, coauthor of Fear of Intimacy. “They get into relationships and think they’re automatically going to know how to make everything work, but figuring out how to stay passionate together is really a skill.” Luckily, they’re skills that anyone can learn. Here are six habits that you’d do well to adopt if you want your date to become your happily-ever-after mate.
Habit #1: Catch romance where you can“You may start out with chocolates and roses, but the likelihood of being able to sustain that feeling with a busy schedule is pretty unlikely,” says JoAnn Magdoff, Ph.D., a New York City-based psychotherapist. Successful couples learn to build a bubble of romance at unexpected times — during their daily commute, while doing laundry — and in low-impact ways, whether that be a long, lingering smooch or just holding hands. In other words, the next time you hear yourself say “Oh, look, we’ve got 15 minutes to ourselves,” make use of it — that’s what keeps the spark alive.
Habit #2: Fight fair Believe it or not, learning to fight right is an important part of keeping chemistry alive. Why? Because if you are constantly cutting each other down, it’s hard to feel mutually amorous. “There is no such thing as a relationship without disagreements,” says David Wygant, author of Always Talk to Strangers. “But if there is an understanding that your partner can come to you with any dissension without being attacked, you will have an honest relationship comprised of ‘open discussions’ rather than ‘fights.’” Debra Tobias, who has been happily married for almost 10 years to her husband Steve, agrees. “Steve and I have learned to listen to each other when we’re upset and we admit when we’re wrong,” says Tobias. “We also make a rule of never, ever saying ‘I told you so’ no matter how much we might want to say it.” The result is that their chemistry doesn’t wane because they never let their arguments escalate to a personal level. Focus on the issue at hand instead of throwing verbal punches.
Habit #3: Nurture your separate selves Going off to your book club when your sweetie’s out golfing isn’t a sign you two are drifting apart. On the contrary, developing individual interests allows for a richer life as a couple. By taking little “couple breaks,” you gain a greater appreciation of the gifts your partner brings to your life and you have more to offer as well. “It’s very attractive to be independent sometimes,” says Magdoff. “You feel better about yourself and you’re less demanding of your partner when you’re together.” After all, taking some personal responsibility for your own well-being relieves the other person of the pressure to “provide” happiness — so go ahead and nurture some solo adventures. That’ll also keep each of you stocked with plenty of adventures to chat about, which also builds your bond.
Habit #4: Take on a project togetherSeparate interests aside, exploring new ground together is also important since it strengthens your history of shared experiences. Jo Smith and her husband of four years found this out when they committed to running their first 10K together. “We were training together, carbo-loading and hydrating together, running the race together and ultimately succeeding together when we both finished,” says Smith. “It brought a whole new level of closeness to our relationship because of the time we spent learning as a duo during this endeavor.” Couples who take on adventures together get a sense of daring and accomplishment that can really kick up their chemistry!
Habit #5: Don’t let your physical attraction for each other dwindle No doubt about it, couples with healthy libidos have no problem keeping chemistry cooking. (That whole “couples’ desire for each other naturally fades over time” excuse? Not true.) The trick to injecting more electricity into a lagging love life has to do with trying new things — sure, it can be easy to work on tricks and techniques when you first meet, but people’s preferences can, and do, change over time. “In interviewing people on the topic of physical intimacy, it became clear that the couples who were the most satisfied were also the ones who were open to some experimentation,” says Catlett. This isn’t to say you suddenly have to become a wild thing, though. Even returning to the basics you may have abandoned along the way — lots of kissing and eye contact, for example — can make the usual encounter feel very different… and much more intimate.
Habit #6: Engage in some mutual admiration In order for chemistry between two people to thrive, there needs to be mutual respect. “It’s about putting yourself in the role of an observer of your partner,” says Magdoff. “Watch them ‘perform’ — I’m not saying they need to do a song and dance for you — just pay attention to the everyday things that remind you why you find them so special.” Then, make it a point to lob compliments their way. “A good exercise is to occasionally create a mental list of the qualities you dig about your partner, and to occasionally share one of your thoughts with the one you love,” says Wygant. Because the reality is, you’ll always want to be around someone who thinks you’re fantastic.
Friday, October 8, 2010
**Making Moves**
How do you feel after finding out that making moves has to be made? NEW BLOG, addresses why you feel liberated after deciding on a decision on something you expect to be difficult.
Have you ever gone back and forth with yourself about something that needs to be addressed, whether it is with someone else or simply with yourself? You know that you’re dealing with something that carries heavy weight and the grounds to addressing this situation will cause a decision to be made, and you’re just afraid of the outcome of the situation will be. For example: You have made a decision that your current situation or relationship (whether it be personal or not) needs to come to an end. After feeling like you have given so much and you are unappreciated or that other person has just failed to realize that you’re a powerful additional or a key element to their world. Letting them go, seems to be the only way to get them see. Your hope is that they will have a deathly fear of losing you or at least pose a well deserved fight for you. But the fear that this will not be the case is a hard pill to swallow, and will actually feel like you’re the one losing out. Fearing that someone will not regret or isn’t worried about losing you, only brings thoughts and notions in your head “was it ever there in the first place” Its a s scary feeling, fear will actually begin to over power your ultimate decision. Lol its funny I should say that. I dedicated a blog a few weeks back on FEAR…lol I have tried to eliminate that WORD as much as possible out of my own daily life. I believe its time to start moving away from fearing that actions of others and not let them dictate your emotions. It’s the hardest thing to do in the world, but you got to know that walking away is so hard but in the end a benefit should come out of it.
Ending Quote:
How many pure hearted people do we actually encounter in our lifetime? If its 1, then most of us are screwed.- Mikeyonna Dedmon
Have you ever gone back and forth with yourself about something that needs to be addressed, whether it is with someone else or simply with yourself? You know that you’re dealing with something that carries heavy weight and the grounds to addressing this situation will cause a decision to be made, and you’re just afraid of the outcome of the situation will be. For example: You have made a decision that your current situation or relationship (whether it be personal or not) needs to come to an end. After feeling like you have given so much and you are unappreciated or that other person has just failed to realize that you’re a powerful additional or a key element to their world. Letting them go, seems to be the only way to get them see. Your hope is that they will have a deathly fear of losing you or at least pose a well deserved fight for you. But the fear that this will not be the case is a hard pill to swallow, and will actually feel like you’re the one losing out. Fearing that someone will not regret or isn’t worried about losing you, only brings thoughts and notions in your head “was it ever there in the first place” Its a s scary feeling, fear will actually begin to over power your ultimate decision. Lol its funny I should say that. I dedicated a blog a few weeks back on FEAR…lol I have tried to eliminate that WORD as much as possible out of my own daily life. I believe its time to start moving away from fearing that actions of others and not let them dictate your emotions. It’s the hardest thing to do in the world, but you got to know that walking away is so hard but in the end a benefit should come out of it.
Ending Quote:
How many pure hearted people do we actually encounter in our lifetime? If its 1, then most of us are screwed.- Mikeyonna Dedmon
**new changes**
Welcome back! There might in fact be several blogs posted today. I pre-write all my materials and post. And since I have been down for a few days. I have material that I have already put together just had a hard time actually getting it posted. New changes** I have once again made my blog public, but encourage my current readers and the 12 anonymous readers who have joined (thank you so much! Identity is not necessary I am just grateful of the support) All comments are still being directed straight to my email address and all are encouraged to email me directly with comments or questions.
mdedmon84@yahoo.com
Thanks Love BUGS
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Sunday, October 3, 2010
Aged Love
Quote: Ur relationship is only as strong as its ability to with stand the darkest times & the heaviest storms. Anything worth having for a lifetime is that very thing that GOD has assembled and is test driving. Not for errors, because HE makes NO( mistakes. but to assure you can handle it "Flying by Faith"- Mikeyonna Dedmon
The things we have yet to value in life, or those things that were used to build the worlds strongest relationships in the past6. a few weeks ago I was given the opportunity to meet and greet with an older couple on a trip that I took. After making small conversation, I noticed how much in tune they were to one another, and it raised a question in my head. How long had they actually been married? So I asked "63 years" was the response. WOW!!!! I don't know why, but that number triggered a nerve in my body which turned on emotions...lol Tears to be exact...
How does one maintain such a striking interest in someone for more than 60 years? Looking at the morals and standards of some of the relationships TODAY! I'm not sure that interest will make it pass 60 days! NO HUMOR ALL TRUE!! you can see in the eyes of this couple that LETTING GO was the LAST if not forbidden option. I think the difference lies with the foundation on which they built their relationship. IT did NOT consist of a mixture of Material, financial, sexual, or physical attributes or selfish personal gain, but more of a combination of TRUST, communication, faith, honesty, appreciation, spiritual and self satisfaction, all of which are bounded with strength and determination of teamwork and togetherness. As they progressed together they then began to add extras to compliment their relationship but that did not make their relationship. I overly admire these morals and standards. Although I enjoy the perks of my generation, when it comes the love I would give anything to swap out generations. TO know the true meaning behind loving someone and understanding the struggle but gratification of being able to stand in sync with someone for the rest your lives. and the most interesting part and difference among generations is that normally the one they married was their first love, the parent to their children, and the person they are still in love with. it doesn't seem that they dated as much as today! maybe one person before, but it wasn't a lot of partner changing going on. ON TO THE NEXT.... wasn't a popular phrase. lol they didn't date multiple people at once. IT just seemed to be unheard of. it wasn't things like " oh she/ he isn't buying me enough or pleasing me enough, so I'm going to make Patty? Peter my everything because they can" NOPE, it just wasn't happening. There are just so many more things I could point out, But ill definitely be sure to touch on them and tie them into upcoming quotes...lol stay tuned
The things we have yet to value in life, or those things that were used to build the worlds strongest relationships in the past6. a few weeks ago I was given the opportunity to meet and greet with an older couple on a trip that I took. After making small conversation, I noticed how much in tune they were to one another, and it raised a question in my head. How long had they actually been married? So I asked "63 years" was the response. WOW!!!! I don't know why, but that number triggered a nerve in my body which turned on emotions...lol Tears to be exact...
How does one maintain such a striking interest in someone for more than 60 years? Looking at the morals and standards of some of the relationships TODAY! I'm not sure that interest will make it pass 60 days! NO HUMOR ALL TRUE!! you can see in the eyes of this couple that LETTING GO was the LAST if not forbidden option. I think the difference lies with the foundation on which they built their relationship. IT did NOT consist of a mixture of Material, financial, sexual, or physical attributes or selfish personal gain, but more of a combination of TRUST, communication, faith, honesty, appreciation, spiritual and self satisfaction, all of which are bounded with strength and determination of teamwork and togetherness. As they progressed together they then began to add extras to compliment their relationship but that did not make their relationship. I overly admire these morals and standards. Although I enjoy the perks of my generation, when it comes the love I would give anything to swap out generations. TO know the true meaning behind loving someone and understanding the struggle but gratification of being able to stand in sync with someone for the rest your lives. and the most interesting part and difference among generations is that normally the one they married was their first love, the parent to their children, and the person they are still in love with. it doesn't seem that they dated as much as today! maybe one person before, but it wasn't a lot of partner changing going on. ON TO THE NEXT.... wasn't a popular phrase. lol they didn't date multiple people at once. IT just seemed to be unheard of. it wasn't things like " oh she/ he isn't buying me enough or pleasing me enough, so I'm going to make Patty? Peter my everything because they can" NOPE, it just wasn't happening. There are just so many more things I could point out, But ill definitely be sure to touch on them and tie them into upcoming quotes...lol stay tuned
Monday, September 20, 2010
How Love calculates out.....
Here's a question that I have been asking myself and I'm sure others have been faced with a very similar question. If someone asked me to break a relationship down in percentages how would It be done?
Well Here goes my shot at it...
25%- RESPECT
25%- TRUST & HONESTY
25%- COMMUNICATION
10%- ENJOYING ONE ANOTHER (HAVING FUN TOGETHER)
10%- AGREEMENT
5%- PHYSICAL (SEX & etc)
100%- FAITH IN GOD
If total a percentage over 75%, stop complaining, your in excellent shape. If your under that 75%, then either work it out or let it go! Simple
Well Here goes my shot at it...
25%- RESPECT
25%- TRUST & HONESTY
25%- COMMUNICATION
10%- ENJOYING ONE ANOTHER (HAVING FUN TOGETHER)
10%- AGREEMENT
5%- PHYSICAL (SEX & etc)
100%- FAITH IN GOD
If total a percentage over 75%, stop complaining, your in excellent shape. If your under that 75%, then either work it out or let it go! Simple
Friday, August 20, 2010
~~I open my heart~~
I have been away too long, My life has been so busy and because of that I have allowed myself to become overwhelmed again. Why do I stop writing when I know that when i bottle up my emotions I began to weight myself down. So I'm at that point again. So here goes
~~I open my heart~~
On a recent mini vacation, I was given the opportunity to sit in silence for a a period of 4+ hours, which was perfect for my soul. I sat back looking at a road of very little scenery. I began to think about the most important things I have going on in my life at this very time. Why do i fear so much in life? I have been on a constant road of wonder about this. Everything that has gone wrong or will go wrong in my life has been a direct result of my fears. I have prayed for some type of bravery, something that will allow me or help me become fearless. God, I'm losing everything that is great in my life being cautious. I was given three major opportunities this year along, all of which i barely missed out on because of fear. I will admit that much of my happiness has come on pure consumption of the love of the most amazing man I have ever been in contact with. The funny thing is because of a instant burst if bravery that i had over a year ago is the reason for. (side giggle to self) I continue to remind myself that nothing great comes without a struggle or trials & tribulations. Its funny because I called my first love my first love because I knew that I was in love, but to be honest after feeling everything that i feel now, I was totally thrown off. Because this actually seems to be the most amazing feeling I have ever felt. And whats even better is when i look at him, i cant help but to smile, so when i call myself being upset I have to avoid eye contact or leave because I would totally contradict myself if i put on a huge smile, but saying I'm mad..( haha) My biggest fear ( there goes that words again) is losing him. my HOPES are that he trust me, i want him to be able to know that no matter what we go thru or faced with, Im not going to give up & i want him to know that everything i say & do comes from a pure heart that I was blessed with. I can count on as many fingers as the entire population of the world has combined how many times I have been so grateful that God has blessed me. I seat last night watching " a Diary of a angry black man" and i cant help to admit that I display some of the traits that black men claimed to be wrong with a black woman. I silently began to cry to myself, So does this mean I'm in jeopardy of losing him? You really don't know what to expect when being in a relationship, I think that's why i so scared. So many stories about people falling in & out of love its so scary. I have bury myself in so much fear and worry when we have the slightest disagreement. Because at any moment I fear he will call it quits. So how do i love away from this fear?
My insecurities are showing more than ever. I had a great opportunity to pursue a small modeling gig. I never doubted that i was pretty, but i just felt I didn't have what it took to be in such a high quality field. My unique personality is one that is to be learned and seen through experience, I'm not sure being unique the way that i am, comes out in photos or through my personal appearance. Some people have to have a special talent. It was so hard for me to believe that i could be a raw talent. It just isn't in me.
All in all, I have allowed myself to be taken over by fear. I fear so much and hold confidence in very little, but how do I change that?
So, to reflect on my feelings I play " Her Heart" Anthony HAmilton ( a song that always has tears burning the back of my eyes,, when I play it) and i allow the tears to guide me through. & i end with a simple prayer. " Lord just make everything okay, whether I overcome my fears or not. I am eger to become SIMPLY just a happy person, Im not asking for the world at my feet, just to be happy, let your will be done, Amen"
~~I open my heart~~
On a recent mini vacation, I was given the opportunity to sit in silence for a a period of 4+ hours, which was perfect for my soul. I sat back looking at a road of very little scenery. I began to think about the most important things I have going on in my life at this very time. Why do i fear so much in life? I have been on a constant road of wonder about this. Everything that has gone wrong or will go wrong in my life has been a direct result of my fears. I have prayed for some type of bravery, something that will allow me or help me become fearless. God, I'm losing everything that is great in my life being cautious. I was given three major opportunities this year along, all of which i barely missed out on because of fear. I will admit that much of my happiness has come on pure consumption of the love of the most amazing man I have ever been in contact with. The funny thing is because of a instant burst if bravery that i had over a year ago is the reason for. (side giggle to self) I continue to remind myself that nothing great comes without a struggle or trials & tribulations. Its funny because I called my first love my first love because I knew that I was in love, but to be honest after feeling everything that i feel now, I was totally thrown off. Because this actually seems to be the most amazing feeling I have ever felt. And whats even better is when i look at him, i cant help but to smile, so when i call myself being upset I have to avoid eye contact or leave because I would totally contradict myself if i put on a huge smile, but saying I'm mad..( haha) My biggest fear ( there goes that words again) is losing him. my HOPES are that he trust me, i want him to be able to know that no matter what we go thru or faced with, Im not going to give up & i want him to know that everything i say & do comes from a pure heart that I was blessed with. I can count on as many fingers as the entire population of the world has combined how many times I have been so grateful that God has blessed me. I seat last night watching " a Diary of a angry black man" and i cant help to admit that I display some of the traits that black men claimed to be wrong with a black woman. I silently began to cry to myself, So does this mean I'm in jeopardy of losing him? You really don't know what to expect when being in a relationship, I think that's why i so scared. So many stories about people falling in & out of love its so scary. I have bury myself in so much fear and worry when we have the slightest disagreement. Because at any moment I fear he will call it quits. So how do i love away from this fear?
My insecurities are showing more than ever. I had a great opportunity to pursue a small modeling gig. I never doubted that i was pretty, but i just felt I didn't have what it took to be in such a high quality field. My unique personality is one that is to be learned and seen through experience, I'm not sure being unique the way that i am, comes out in photos or through my personal appearance. Some people have to have a special talent. It was so hard for me to believe that i could be a raw talent. It just isn't in me.
All in all, I have allowed myself to be taken over by fear. I fear so much and hold confidence in very little, but how do I change that?
So, to reflect on my feelings I play " Her Heart" Anthony HAmilton ( a song that always has tears burning the back of my eyes,, when I play it) and i allow the tears to guide me through. & i end with a simple prayer. " Lord just make everything okay, whether I overcome my fears or not. I am eger to become SIMPLY just a happy person, Im not asking for the world at my feet, just to be happy, let your will be done, Amen"
Thursday, February 18, 2010
Which end is the road heading now
Shine in the sun, but dim in the dark
I never understood that part
Do what you need to get there
Do nothing to stay there
portray to be what you wish
and truly disappoint those you have fooled
Let only god mold your ways
Because tomorrow is never promised today!
I never understood that part
Do what you need to get there
Do nothing to stay there
portray to be what you wish
and truly disappoint those you have fooled
Let only god mold your ways
Because tomorrow is never promised today!
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
What Men & Women should know about Valentines Day
1) It’s never okay to assume you’re someone’s valentine. How about asking? Me personally I think since it’s usually up to the man whether you guys are in a committed relationship or not, going to get married or not. So why not let him do the honors.
2) Valentines Day is a joined appreciation day. It is a day for BOTH men and women to share appreciation and love for one another. So ladies step your game up, we want him to appreciate us and give us things; we need to do the same. It’s a couples day
3) Valentines Day is something that can’t be made up. Sure, u can miss someone’s birthday and send a belated b-day card or call with apologies. But Valentines Day is like an anniversary. It’s a specific day where you let that “One & only special someone” know, this is their day, and u have only them on your mind” If he/she misses this day, more then likely YOUR NOT that “One & only special someone” Sorry, to say but its very true. You should know where to go from there.
4) Cheesy is perfect for Valentines Day. This is a day where cheesy and thoughtful gifts over power quality & quantity. A few examples. Try a handmade card with flowers and a small box of candies. The more thought you put into the day, gets a better point across.
5) Relax. Showing someone that are important to you or expressing your feelings shouldn’t be like Finals. It should come natural and feel natural.
6) Its Okay to enjoy Valentines Day even if your single. For years, I have been single, and it seems no matter how close I get to Valentines Day I never make it, to have that day I have dreamed of. But after awhile of always giving or going all the way out for someone who I thought was special, it always turned out upside down. So if your single, this is a day for you as well, you are surrounded by family and friends who love you. Enjoy this day with them
7) Valentines Day is a day of Love. Don’t ruin it by being salty towards people who are enjoying it. Jealousy is a disease and we have to work on our self infections to start working towards a cure.
8) Become Fearless. Valentines Day is the perfect day to say I love you. If you have felt that you loved someone and really didn’t know how to say it or how the other person would feel about it or you after you have said it. Valentines Day is a perfect excuse. Hell everyone is going to be throwing around “I LOVE YOU” why not you too, take some pressure off by throwing in a playful card that says it. Followed by some verbal bravery.
2) Valentines Day is a joined appreciation day. It is a day for BOTH men and women to share appreciation and love for one another. So ladies step your game up, we want him to appreciate us and give us things; we need to do the same. It’s a couples day
3) Valentines Day is something that can’t be made up. Sure, u can miss someone’s birthday and send a belated b-day card or call with apologies. But Valentines Day is like an anniversary. It’s a specific day where you let that “One & only special someone” know, this is their day, and u have only them on your mind” If he/she misses this day, more then likely YOUR NOT that “One & only special someone” Sorry, to say but its very true. You should know where to go from there.
4) Cheesy is perfect for Valentines Day. This is a day where cheesy and thoughtful gifts over power quality & quantity. A few examples. Try a handmade card with flowers and a small box of candies. The more thought you put into the day, gets a better point across.
5) Relax. Showing someone that are important to you or expressing your feelings shouldn’t be like Finals. It should come natural and feel natural.
6) Its Okay to enjoy Valentines Day even if your single. For years, I have been single, and it seems no matter how close I get to Valentines Day I never make it, to have that day I have dreamed of. But after awhile of always giving or going all the way out for someone who I thought was special, it always turned out upside down. So if your single, this is a day for you as well, you are surrounded by family and friends who love you. Enjoy this day with them
7) Valentines Day is a day of Love. Don’t ruin it by being salty towards people who are enjoying it. Jealousy is a disease and we have to work on our self infections to start working towards a cure.
8) Become Fearless. Valentines Day is the perfect day to say I love you. If you have felt that you loved someone and really didn’t know how to say it or how the other person would feel about it or you after you have said it. Valentines Day is a perfect excuse. Hell everyone is going to be throwing around “I LOVE YOU” why not you too, take some pressure off by throwing in a playful card that says it. Followed by some verbal bravery.
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
If u ever loved someone who was trouble
So, i was going to sit and write a blog. But i wasnt too sure on what i should write about. Then this song i was listening to this morning on my way to work popped in my head..Its funny cause i found a old bag in my closet that had some really old cds that i had. One of the cds, wasnt that old but had this song on it by Jazmine Sullivan- After The Hurricane I love that song. I suggest u read the lyrics as the song plays. SO u can grasp the full understanding of what shes talking about http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bawqI6UqKPU
Saturday, January 23, 2010
I dont know if my heart is filled with a little anger right now. or just filled with hurt. But all i know is my tears are a product of whatever it is that im feeling..I just dont understand..Its a unknown thing to me. Lord knows i only have great intentions for anything i put my finger on. Hurting someone is last on my list. So why is it that I just continue to get hurt. I just dont understand. I just dont ever seem to be enough. I have fought a battle of trying make a father love me as his only daughter. I cant even succeed at doing that. Someone who is meant to love you no matter what the situation is. No matter what you do, your father is suppose to love you with no restraints. That is where you built the foundation of how you allow another man to treat you. I just dont get it...My heart is in so much hurt. And thru it all I still am so determine to be a good person, all the way from the bottom of my heart. I would never look to purposely hurt anyone. but in return all i get is the opposite. Why is the world so so so so ugly. I have given my all to so many people that i have encounter, but i just continue to lose. The fact of the matter is that, I just continue to allow it to happen, but the purity of my heart wont allow myself to stop it from happen....I dont get it
Thursday, January 21, 2010
I seen the signs
How fast does things change...I just dont understand. Feeling like i lost my grip!.Goodnight!
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Whats to come of tomorrow
Currently Listening to:
Monica - Once In A Life Time ( a beautiful song)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BkGkAsbEJ2A
Omg...Music is so beautiful...Random but so true. A great song can send the perfect message to someone, in some cases send a message that you cant fix your lips to say. I love it..** sigh**
So i havent had a updating post in a couple of days :( , but its okay! Im here now to give a quick update. Well i have a meeting in the morning at the County of San Bernardino Children Services..* yikes* LEts pray everything goes well. Im so ready to take so many steps in my life. Some I have complete control over, and others I dont. But I have made the decision to focus my attention on the things i have control of..and make those things happen. Im entering a new chapter in my life And right now im at a crossroad. So...Im making moves.
My Motto for the month: Living life on hope will inspire you to live life with love in your heart.
Monica - Once In A Life Time ( a beautiful song)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BkGkAsbEJ2A
Omg...Music is so beautiful...Random but so true. A great song can send the perfect message to someone, in some cases send a message that you cant fix your lips to say. I love it..** sigh**
So i havent had a updating post in a couple of days :( , but its okay! Im here now to give a quick update. Well i have a meeting in the morning at the County of San Bernardino Children Services..* yikes* LEts pray everything goes well. Im so ready to take so many steps in my life. Some I have complete control over, and others I dont. But I have made the decision to focus my attention on the things i have control of..and make those things happen. Im entering a new chapter in my life And right now im at a crossroad. So...Im making moves.
My Motto for the month: Living life on hope will inspire you to live life with love in your heart.
Monday, January 11, 2010
Indifferent Tonight
I spent my night alone tonight...Catching a Open Mic night, i seat in the back at a small coffee table by myself, slowly sipping a Carmel coffee trying to be invisible. I did this, because I'm realizing in my life I live in fear. I need to overcome this some way some how. I figure i start by doing so with my own passion. I wanted to sit back and start build courage. I watch so many brave people. How does one build up so much courage with out taking fear into consideration. With out thinking about what may, will, or could happen? This is something I admire the most in people in general. So afterwards, After a couple of hours of enjoying the show and the comedy show. It was over. & still i had no courage. So as i was gathering my things, One of the guys from the show who was in the comedy part, came over stage and directly towards me..He walked up and said " excuse me, but this has to be your right time, i have never seen you here before? I wanted to crack up laughing. Do i stick out that much. yeah i was the only black person, but WOW! but i said yeah, and he continued on with saying that he would like to see me come more often and maybe participate..WOW how weird!!! So i spent the next hour...Just driving and thinking. Listening to music. I even found myself shedding tears...Do this mean I'm unhappy? I don't think so, I found that tears have been associated with unhappiness, and that's not always the case. SO many changes are going on right now in my life and they are all positive or at least most of them, and i come to realize that i have to take so me time every once in a while to gather all my thoughts so that i stay fresh and prepared for things..I strive to be the best i can at any given...So as i was driving i started to feel the 2 Carmel coffee's, So i stopped at Starbucks to use the restroom, and as i was walking back to my car. I seen a couple on a date (I'm guessing) but i heard the guy say, "you are the girl i want to be with, your perfect" OMG i actually started crying..smiling all the way back to the car..Why am i so emotional when it comes to stuff like that..Man all i could think about was the joy she was probably feeling, IF i was this happy for her just hear what he said..It wasn't even directed to me..lol Please dont get me started..but quickly i will say~! Listening to Mario's Song I choose you, ( listen to it, BOMB) I just keep thinking how good it must feel to be in full fledged love with someone. knowing that there is no one else on his/ her mind but you. knowing u will never have to be alone again..Damn, Love, some say overrated, but I say its Well need & appreciated...Well that's my Indifferent Night. I plan on having this every Sunday. I had so much on my mind. Perfect way to release it all...
Saturday, January 2, 2010
What matters the most
So, I have been here at my apt ALL break long ALONE...lol had a lot to think about with this well needed time alone. I was really reflecting back on the things I want. When you have a chance to really put into prospective the things you want, your really become proud of yourself. I was sitting back thinking about the things that make me happy. & i came to realize, im kind of a simple yet difficult person. But bottom line is i just want to be happy. I think there is nothing like having creative and new things in your life. Im not one to ask for much from others, But its the simple things that matter to me. I prefer a handwritten letter or a email. A flower picked out of someones yard, then a dozen of roses bought at a store. A call from a friend to check on me. A poem to say your thinking about me. Taking a walk & conversation. One thing, i dont think people understand is the value of money, the true value money. When it comes to showing someone you care about them or love them: The value of money is worthless. Creativity comes from the heart. and showing someone how you feel with a new creative approach, you are setting yourself aside from the rest. I can recall some dreams i have had in the past. In those dreams i found myself in love with someone, and having them do some of the most creative things to show me how they feel. Sometimes I think to myself "Man why do i have to think of all this stuff, im not even giving MR RIGHT a chance..lol" hahaha Its so funny how our mind works. You get to a point if your not careful you will let fairytale images consume your thoughts..And im 110% sure I do that 80% of the time..lol
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